About Mark Williams

Mark was born in Ohio, the middle of 5 sons of a fundamentalist minister, who decided to move the family to Johannesburg, South Africa, when he was 10 years old. They bounced back and forth until he was 18 years old, when he entered college in Florida. 

Mark is sad that his spiritual background was so entwined with the Lost Cause Movement, a social southern movement that began as a defense of slavery and the depriving of civil rights from black people. 

On his journey out of the sect he grew up in, he studied counseling, working on understanding the dysfunctional family, and differentiation of each person's identity. 

Attachment styles of mother and infant and how those roles are expressed in adulthood have fascinated Mark for years. 

Each person is normal for the experiences they have been through. 

The Role of Anger:

Anger is good information: When I am angry I know that at least one of my Needs is not being met. 

Marshall Rosenberg proposed that we each have Needs that are important. Our anxiety rises when we don't get our needs met:

CONNECTION
acceptance
affection
appreciation
belonging
cooperation
communication
closeness
community
companionship
compassion
consideration
consistency
empathy
inclusion
intimacy
love
mutuality
nurturing
respect/self-respect
safety
security
stability
support
to know and be known
to see and be seen
to understand and
be understood
trust
warmth

PHYSICAL WELL-BEING
air
food
movement/exercise
rest/sleep
sexual expression
safety
shelter
touch
water

HONESTY
authenticity
integrity
presence

PLAY
joy
humor

PEACE
beauty
communion
ease
equality
harmony
inspiration
order

AUTONOMY
choice
freedom
independence
space
spontaneity

MEANING
awareness
celebration of life
challenge
clarity
competence
consciousness
contribution
creativity
discovery
efficacy
effectiveness
growth
hope
learning
mourning
participation
purpose
self-expression
stimulation
to matter
understanding

 
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Click here to make an appointment for counseling. You will be led to my calendar and can choose one of the open slots. 

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